How to Start Any Conversation — Without Awkwardness
Last Friday, I had the honor of speaking at the ExF Business Networking Breakfast in Dubai and let me tell you, the energy in that room was electric.
I was invited to teach professionals how to start, engage, and exit conversations with more confidence and clarity, even in high-pressure networking settings. And today, I want to share the same 3-step formula I taught at ExF, so you can use it too.
Because let’s be honest, most of us were never taught how to start a conversation without overthinking it. We wing it, rehearse in our heads, or avoid it altogether.
But what if you had a simple structure that helped you start any conversation - naturally, confidently, and without awkwardness?
Here it is.
Step 1: Notice + Name
The best way to start a conversation is to start with what’s real. Look around and comment on something you both share in the moment. This keeps it warm, human, and spontaneous.
Here are a few examples:
“This room has such a great energy.”
“I love how they set up the tables, it feels so inviting.”
“Have you tried the coffee yet?”
It might seem small, but these openers create connection without pressure.
Step 2: Ask + Bridge
Once you’ve made an observation, follow it with a light question that invites the other person in, then bridge into what they do or why they’re here.
Example:
“Is this your first time attending ExF?”
“What kind of work do you do?”
“What brought you here today?”
You’re giving them a natural way to respond and signaling genuine interest.
Step 3: Connect + Share
Now it’s your turn. Respond with something short, warm, and clear about yourself, whether it’s what you do, what brought you there, or a recent win.
Think of this as inviting the other person into your world, not selling them on it.
Example:
“I actually just moved to Dubai a few months ago, I’ve been loving events like these.”
“I run a small coaching business that focuses on communication and emotional intelligence, so this topic is close to my heart.”
This part builds trust and makes the conversation feel mutual, not one-sided.
Why It Works
This formula is rooted in connection, not performance.
When you Notice + Name, Ask + Bridge, and Connect + Share, you turn small talk into real talk and awkward moments into authentic ones.
Whether you’re walking into a networking event, joining a new team, or meeting someone for the first time, this tool helps you stay grounded, clear, and confident.
🎁 Bonus: Want the Conversation Cheat Sheet?
I’ve created a downloadable resource that includes this formula, plus other helpful scripts for real-life conversations.
👉 Download the Conversation Cheat Sheet Here